The Mother Of The Bride.

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Picture it if you will: The mother of the bride. Not just any mother this is our Sandra. Hair lacquered like a crash helmet, clutch bag like a medieval weapon, and a look that says “I’ve not slept since Tuesday but I will not be outshone by Carol from Slimming World.”


You know what it’s like. You spend twenty-five years raising this child feeding her, clothing her, wiping things off her that you still can’t identify and then one day she turns round and says, “Mum, I’m getting married.” And you think, “Oh lovely,” but what you say is, “To whom!?”

Because let’s be honest, you’ve seen the boy. He’s got a neck tattoo and a car that sounds like it’s powered by bees. And he calls you “Bruv.” Bruv! I’m not your bruv, I’m your future mother-in-law, and I’ve got a slow cooker older than you.

So the planning begins. And it’s not a wedding, it’s a military operation. You’ve got spreadsheets, mood boards, and a WhatsApp group called “Operation White Lace.” You’re Googling things like “Can you get married in a marquee if your uncle’s allergic to canvas?” and “Is it legal to ban Auntie Jess  from the buffet?”

Then there’s the dress. Ohhh the dress. Not hers yours! Because you’ve got to look elegant, but not like you’re trying to pull the vicar. You want something that says “classy matriarch,” not “Vegas widow.” You try on seventeen outfits and end up with one that cost more than your first car and has sequins. Sequins! You look like a disco ball in mourning.

When the day finally arrives. You’re up at 5am, steaming dresses, curling hair, and shouting “WHERE’S THE CONFETTI?” like it’s a hostage situation. You’ve not eaten since Thursday but you’ve had three Proseccos, two lattes, and a handful of almonds. You’re vibrating like something out of the Ann Summer catalogue!

Then you see her. Your little girl. In her dress. And you cry. Not a delicate tear no, you ugly cry. Mascara down your cheeks like war paint. And she says, “Mum, stop it,” and you say, “I’m just proud,” but really you’re thinking, “Please let the DJ have Come On Eileen.”

Reception kicks off. You’re dancing with Uncle Barry who smells like TCP and regret. You’ve got one heel off and you’re waving a napkin like it’s the FA Cup. And when the groom’s nan starts doing the worm, you think, “This is it. This is what it’s all about.”

And at the end of the night, when your feet are bleeding and your Spanx have given up, your daughter hugs you and says, “Thanks Mum. I couldn’t have done it without you.” And you say, “I know, love. I know.”

Because you’re the mother of the bride. And you’ve earned every blister, every grey hair, and every sip of warm Prosecco.



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